From wandering to building a foundation
Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent, and committed decision. - Tony Robbins
How do you make a final decision? Making decisions can be incredibly difficult when we want all the things + can see every different way we can be living life to the fullest. Let me start off by saying that in 2019 we almost moved across country and started a new life based off adventure. Sounds like us right? Totally! But for some reason I wasn’t feeling it! Hardcore was not feeling it. I saw life from both sides. One was completely starting off on a fresh slate by taking our time traveling. The other side was buying a home and creating a foundation. Both super amazing opportunities!
Spoiler alert - WE BOUGHT A HOME! Here is a glimpse into our decision making process.
The year before this decision was upon us, we moved out of our tiny apartment and into a temporary home. Which just happened to become available through my friend. It was a barter situation so I was able to trade our labor for a rent free stay. Perfect because we decided we would use this amount of time to save up to move across country, purge our things, and make a plan. We felt so lucky that life had landed us in this position.
When the time to pick up and move started to come closer - I started to question a bit more.
I then made a big realization - I’ve done this before! It’s a pattern. I started to see the pattern of my family moving around - especially across country! My grandma moved her family across the country. Then my mom moved us across the country. Some ancestral patters anyone? Very interesting.
As I was thinking about our two very different life path choices some questions I started to bring up were - What are our hopes + dreams right now as a family? & Where do we want to see ourselves in 5 years? Although those were very good conversations to have - the decision rested on the answer to one important question…
How do we want to raise our kids?
I have fully enjoyed renovating our home to make it look and feel like ours. This was a commitment to myself and my family.
So how did we see ourselves raising our kids? We knew we wanted it to look differently then how we were raised - only in the sense that we didn’t want to move around so much. I felt like we didn’t know what it was like to live in one spot. This realization came from feeling super successful that we stayed in our tiny apartment for 6 whole years! That's the longest home I’ve lived in throughout my entire life & I was proud! We were proud! This is when a solid foundation topped living a more adventures life.
Once we connected our thoughts to our feelings - We were 100% sold
We decided to buy a house. We decided to buy a house and dive in completely - like full bodied homeowners. My thinking changed and I started to realize that this is just a phase of our lives. Nothing is forever and there will be a time to travel, only when we can completely commit to it. That is what I mean by diving in completely and it only happens when we take the time to commit 100% to our decision.
Raising our children
All of our pets have been gifted to us due to different circumstances. Our chickens, ducks and both dogs. Wild to think about - we have learned to go with the flow & make room in our hearts.
We wanted to create memories of having a home, raising chickens & ducks, having pets to love, growing gardens and long lasting childhood friendships. This is the chapter where we learn to fall in love with owning a home and all the other stuff that comes with it.
We have struggled for many years wondering if we would be homeowners or just rent until we could travel. Truth be told many years went by when we weren’t fully committed with either one of those. Which led to a lot of struggle, suffering and stress. Only when we made a fully committed decision to one of them, did I realize just how much time was spent wondering and wishing.
